3 most important things in a relationship

More than mutual love and agreement in a relationship, lovers need some things in order to make their relationship life a healthy and happy one.

Everybody wants a joyful relationship and union. Both lovers in a relationship and married couples want relationships that are problem-free and trustworthy. We all want a caring and loving partner. A partner that is loyal, honest and compassionate. 

But, is that all there is to have a smooth relationship. Some partners are caring, dedicated and loving to each other, yet problem still arise in their relationship. 

Why? It's because there are some things people neglect while in a relationship which is causing a problem for them. 

What are these things and how can we achieve a happy relationship?. How can we have a problem-free relationship?

To achieve that is to know the three factors that are important in a relationship, and they are :

1. Understanding. 

This is the ability to understand why some things happen and the willingness to make amends or forgive. In other words, it is the particular way in which somebody understands something.

If understanding is lacking in any relationship, there is no way it is going to be peaceful and grow. Understanding is like a pillar in a relationship, irrespective of the people involved. Whether rich or poor, young or old, application of understanding is needed to make it flourish.

For instance, during courtship, people tend to keep some of their characters until they are finally married. Once married, the true colour of the spouse will begin to show. Then, you begin to wonder if that is really the person you fell in love with.

During that period, it is only understanding that can make it work. Without that, divorce is waiting to happen.

2. Respect.

This is a feeling of great admiration for your spouses because of their good qualities or achievements. It can also be a polite behaviour towards your lover or care because you think he/she is important. 

Learn to treat each other with great respect. Show and feel respect for your spouse. Treat him/her like a king/queen. 

Without respect, you might treat your spouse like nothing. You might never appreciate whatever he/she is doing. You will never acknowledge each other. Sometimes, you might say something hurting to your spouse unknowingly.

3. Tolerance.

This is the willingness to accept or the ability to allow your spouse to do something that you do not agree with or like, or opinions or behaviour that you may agree with. It is the willingness to allow something that you do not like or agree with to happen.

This is what will help in understanding some flaws of your partner and the ability to stay calm and accept something annoying without complaining.

In conclusion, try and develop a deep mutual understanding, respect and tolerance between each other and see your love life blossom like a tree. 

Respect is what helps you to build a strong bond between you and your spouse or lover and tolerance is what helps you to cement the love and understanding is what helps you to continue regardless of any problems or shortcomings encountered.